Woman Gifts 14-Year-Old A Weight Loss Dress

"It is absolutely wild to me that an adult woman would teach a 14-year-old girl that she has to sculpt her body for male attention. Absolutely apesh*t; it's the 2020s, not the 1920s."

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"I said I'd take care of it and get her the right size. The next day, I called Gigi's mom, Lauren, and asked her why she would do that. She explained that she thought it would give Bonnie something to work towards because she heard Bonnie saying she didn't get asked out last year, but Gigi had several boys after her and that it seemed like it upset her."

"She got defensive and said that it was obviously embarrassing for Bonnie to not have boys into her when all her friends do."

"Then she got personal and said just because I've 'given up' and stopped trying doesn't mean I have to turn Bonnie into a nun."

"She got straight A's last year, and I took her to Ulta for a 'spree', and all she wanted was some lip gloss and then ASKED for the body spray instead."

"And I’ve been shocked to see how other people have reacted to this, so now I’m questioning my own parenting, which I NEVER do. Am I the asshole?"

"Not the asshole. Good fucking lord it is absolutely wild to me that an adult woman would teach a 14-year-old girl that she has to sculpt her body for male attention. Absolutely apeshit, it's the 2020s, not the 1920s," said user CapoExplains.

"Gigi's mom is toxic. This is not someone you want your daughter exposed to or associating with. She's 14, she is still a kid," user CuriousEmphasis7698 wrote. "It is not 'messing with her socially' to treat her in an age-appropriate way. Gigi's mom's implication that your daughter needs to lose weight is also beyond unacceptable. Her own kid is probably on her way to an eating disorder; you don't want your daughter in that boat."

"Those people are toxic. Good for you for protecting your daughter from that, but it would also be a good idea to educate her on things like weight cycling, diet culture, etc, to give her more context on why that woman's mindset/dieting is so unhealthy and damaging for her long-term development."

"On top of all the comments about how it's horrible to encourage a girl to change her body for a boy, encouraging children into relationships is super weird to me. 14 is under the age of consent for most places so it's wild that the mother is that invested in children's dating lives. While they probably aren't doing anything sexually active, it's extremely hetero-centric and creepy."

"I just want to say that you're doing a good thing by not pushing your kid into 'girly' stuff just because she's a girl. I had zero interest in makeup or dresses or anything pink as a kid, but my mom was always quick to point out stuff like 'You should wear makeup; all girls like to play with makeup' or telling me I'm too much of a 'tomboy' because I really liked wearing flannel," user FaintestGem wrote. "I don't think my mom will ever know how much those little comments fucked me up. I was terrified to wear the clothes I liked because I thought people were always judging me for 'dressing like a boy.'"